With Tara passing yesterday, I've been having issues with the other cats in the house - even my roommate's kitten howled her heart out, when I came home with an empty blanket yesterday.

Purrvette has set up shop on Bob's computer chair - the one that even yesterday, Tara had been sleeping on every day and night, except for when she was with me or Purrvette.

Purrvette is taking it the hardest - she wouldn't let the other cats eat any food last night, when she smelled that it was Tara's.

So, I've left Tara's blankets out, put her towels back out - except the smelliest ones (that stank from the drool, from the gangrene in her mouth).

Looking back, I wonder if I did the right thing...in letting her live for so long.  But every time we spoke of putting her down, she'd jump on us all defiant, and said, "NO, not now, not today."

I can't say she went dignified - she'd lost too much blood.  But up until she bled out, she was running around the house like a kitten, getting into things, and giving my friend's mom kisses, and begging moi for food.

I loved Tara like she was my own child...that I've never had.  It matter not that she had fur, never went to school, or graduated college.  She soothed my temper, and between my little "3 Musketeers", I had 3 little girls who'd stop me from getting too out of line, when my Disabilities felt like they were winning.

I miss her paws on my face, her sticking her mouth under mine, and purring all night long...we are all grieving in this house - Tara won over even the most jaded to cats, with her touch.

I can only add to what Denise said and agree that patience and time are the healers here.  The other animals grieve deeply just as we do.  There are flower essences that you might try - anaflora has some, or the ever popular Rescue Remedy.  I'm so sad for you all. :cry:  Love each other.

Hugs from me,
Rondel

Well, I locked Purrvette and Cheshire up in the bedroom at night, like I used to do, before Tara was sick.  I feel it's a safety thing anyway, because of earthquakes, so I did the habit again.

Purrvette was very, very angry about it, and stalked around all night, just wouldn't calm down...I think the flower essence or something, I'll check into it this week.  Her only comfort is the chair where Tara bled profusely, and stopped her own bleeding, time and time again...she didn't let us know HOW much she was bleeding, I only discovered this when I went to clean the chair again.  That must've been why she was low on blood platelets! :shock:  

Cheshire has Stephie, but you have to remember, I rescued Tara when Purrvette was 8, and Tara was 3 - 5, so they grew very close.  Owner of the house has been going off at the mouth, that we can't have another cat, I could just scream - I never brought it up.

I washed all of Tara's towels and blankets last night, to help heal Purrvette, stop her from clinging to Tara's scent.  Cheshire is still indifferent, but she's always accepted life as it's been tossed at her.  Purrvette is a Beta, who prefers to stay that way, only walking up to the plate, when an Alpha is gone...why she's hurting so much...

So, Purrvette is top of my priorities.  I also discovered from my cousin who was trained to run the Ultrasound machine, that it only costs $50 for each event - human fetus, broken bone, or animal heart!  :shock:  I think perhaps, vets and docs should charge a little more to interpret the results - but not 5 times, plus sometimes!

Purrs & Huggs,

Julie

Oh Julie  :cry:  :cry:  I hope time and love will make her feel better.

people say pets dont mourn but they do they seem to know when a friend of their s has gone just give them as much love and attention as you can and they will mourn for a while but they will come around and start eating again i am so sorry for your loss of tara she must have been a beautiful cat