Thanks for the support, it makes me see that I'm not some heartless person as he made me feel. He has continued to send txts asking why I'm so cold, why I won't speak to him about his loss & of course sayin he loves me & he changed. I have not responded at all. He does have to learn to deal with his emotions on his own. I told him in that txt I sent about Paisley that I am at peace in my heart now, that I am happy & that I wished him well but I didn't want to come back into this, I'm happy & finding myself again. Of course this is driving him crazy. But it is how I feel, I feel lonely & miss some things but not enough to deal with the cheating, lying, false promises, verbal & emotional abuse again. No way! I will be strong, I get more strength everyday.

Thanks for all the support & prayers for Paisley. She didn't deserve this outcome. Poor baby.

And a good song to hold on to can help you through this too.....

Kelly Clarkson -- Stronger

You know the bed feels warmer,
Sleeping here alone,
You know I dream in color,
And do the things I want.
You think you got the best of me
Think you had the last laugh

Bet you think that everything good is gone.

Think you left me broken down

Think that i'd come running back

Baby you don't know me, cause you're dead wrong.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone.

What doesn't kill you makes a fighter

Footsteps even lighter

Doesn't mean i'm over cause you're gone

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger

Just me myself and i

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger,
Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean i'm lonely when i'm alone

You heard that I was starting over with someone new,

They told you I was moving on, over you,
You didn't think that I'd come back, i'd come back swinging
You try to break me but you see

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What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
stand a little taller
doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone.
What doesn't kill you makes a fighter

Footsteps even lighter

Doesn't mean I'm over cause your gone.
what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger

Just me, myself and I
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone

Thanks to you I got a new thing started

Thanks to you I'm not the broken hearted

Thanks to you I'm finally thinking 'bout me
You know in the end the day I left was just my beginning..... in the end...

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone

What doesn't kill you makes a fighter

Footsteps even lighter

Doesn't mean I'm over cause you're gone.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger

Just me, Myself and I
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller
Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone.

I'm not alone


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It seems to me that the only reason he got a cat is because he thought it would bring you back. My recommendation would be that he not get another cat, but that is me.

I was in a very abusive relationship in my past and I can tell you from experience that these messages that he is sending to you is another way of controlling you. If there is anyway that you could get a different phone number/email address and make sure that he does not get it, you would be so much better off.

Good luck and please stay strong.

Stay strong, you are on the side of the angels. Do all you can to cut him out of your life. As Teddy wrote, he is only trying to control you. You are no child and do not need to be controlled. Relish your solitude -- that's the flip side of loneliness. You are free to do whatever you want and see fit to do. {{{HUGS}}}

YES! to that!

You really should do this. I have had to do it and it brought much peace.

I am so sorry about little Paisley. What a terrible thing to happen to an innocent wee one. It breaks my heart.

I'm so incredibly sorry to hear this. May sweet Paisley rest in peace with the other lovely kitties at the bridge.



Bless her and you.

sending hugs and good thoughts. She had a good life for a while.. so sad, R.I.P Paisley..

I'm so sorry to hear about Paisley. Poor little thing sounded so sick.
He did the right thing to let her go. May she rest in peace.

I am so proud of you Karyn. You stayed strong and stuck to your guns by not
contacting him. You sent a text expressing your sympathy and that is all you
needed to do. Im so glad you didn't call him. He can say it is uncaring but I
think that was just a dig to try to get you to call him. You know in your heart
that you were sincere in your sympathy and if he doesn't believe it then that is
his problem. I know that you are second guessing yourself but you did the right
thing.

hugs,
Arlene

Paisley RIP little one. I know you are chasing birdies at the bridge.
Hugs to you Karyn. .

Karyn another who is so sorry that paisley has gone to the bridge but she is now free from pain.

I don't think what you did was wrong or right you did what you had too. Sometimes when people feel pain they dont understand that you too are suffering. It's not that you didn't care you have to look after your own heart and I too would have send a text. The hurt is still there I read it in your words. I hope he too learns love unconditionally and maybe this will make him realize not to take things for granted. Be kind to you, maybe tell him if you feel you felt that it hurt you too but the pain of contact was not somewhere you wanted to revisit.

I don't know the history of your relationship but as my psych says we need to distance ourselves from the negative forces and concentrate on the positives. Your ex needs to move onto another chapter in his life as its his past now.

Love ya lots kiddo

Paisley will always be in your heart
RIP Paisley